Brené Brown Quotes

What are your favorite Brené Brown quotes?

Brené Brown is a professor, lecturer, speaker, podcast host and best-selling author of books like Daring Greatly, Dare to Lead, The Gifts of Imperfection, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection, and Courage, I thought it was just me and many others.

Her work has really impacted millions of lives and many people around the world consider her books, lectures, podcasts and speeches to be the inspiration that gave them the courage to take the wheel and change the course of their lives.

Here are some of my best and favorite Brené Brown quotes about gratitude, shame, leadership, courage, joy, perfectionism and sharing your story:

Brené Brown Arena Quotes

Brené Brown Arena Quotes

1. A lot of cheap seats in the arena are filled with people who never venture onto the floor. They just hurl mean-spirited criticisms and put-downs from a safe distance. The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we’re defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerable. Therefore, we need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives. For me, if you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback. -Brené Brown

2. If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you’re criticizing from a place where you’re not also putting yourself on the line, I’m not interested in your feedback.

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3. I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time. Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage. -Brené Brown

Best Brené Brown Quotes

Best Brené Brown Quotes

4. Knowledge is only a rumor until it lives in the muscle. -Brené Brown

5. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time. -Brené Brown

6. When we own our stories, we avoid being trapped as characters in stories someone else is telling. -Brené Brown

7. One of the greatest challenges of becoming myself has been acknowledging that I’m not who I thought I was supposed to be or who I always pictured myself being. -Brené Brown

8. Grace will take you places hustling can’t.

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9. Daring is not saying, “I’m willing to risk failure.” Daring is saying, “I know I will eventually fail and I’m still all in. -Brené Brown

10. Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in. -Brené Brown

11. Generosity is not a free pass for people to take advantage of us, treat us unfairly, or be purposefully disrespectful and mean. -Brené Brown

12. I assumed that people weren’t doing their best so I judged them and constantly fought being disappointed, which was easier than setting boundaries. Boundaries are hard when you want to be liked and when you are a pleaser hellbent on being easy, fun, and flexible. -Brené Brown

13. Just because we didn’t measure up to some standard of achievement doesn’t mean that we don’t possess gifts and talents that only we can bring to the world. Just because someone failed to see the value in what we can create or achieve doesn’t change its worth or ours. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes On Gratitude

Brené Brown Gratitude Quotes

14. There is no joy without gratitude. -Brené Brown

15. What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude. -Brené Brown

16. Let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen, to love with our whole hearts, even though there’s no guarantee… to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, to be this vulnerable means that we’re alive. -Brené Brown

17. I never talk about gratitude and joy separately, for this reason. In 12 years, I’ve never interviewed a single person who would describe their lives as joyful, who would describe themselves as joyous, who was not actively practicing gratitude. -Brené Brown

18. We’re a nation hungry for more joy: Because we’re starving from a lack of gratitude.

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19. Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy and gratitude into our lives. -Brené Brown

20. I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude. -Brené Brown

21. A good life happens when you stop and are grateful for the ordinary moments that so many of us just steamroll over to try to find those extraordinary moments. -Brené Brown

22. When you don’t put your initials behind your name, and I’ve got tons of them, and when you talk about storytelling or love or gratitude, you’re diminishing your legitimacy and importance in this world. -Brené Brown

23. To become fully human means learning to turn my gratitude for being alive into some concrete common good. It means growing gentler toward human weakness. It means practicing forgiveness of my and everyone else’s hourly failures to live up to divine standards. It means learning to forget myself on a regular basis in order to attend to the other selves in my vicinity. It means living so that “I’m only human” does not become an excuse for anything. It means receiving the human condition as blessing and not curse, in all its achingly frail and redemptive reality. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes On Shame

Brené Brown Quotes On Shame

24. If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive. -Brené Brown

25. Shame resilience is the ability to say, “This hurts. This is disappointing, maybe even devastating. But success and recognition and approval are not the values that drive me. My value is courage and I was just courageous. You can move on, shame. -Brené Brown

26. It’s always helpful to remember that when perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun.

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27. Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. -Brené Brown

28. We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes On Leadership

Brené Brown Leadership Quotes

29. Hope is a function of struggle. -Brené Brown

30. Daring leaders work to make sure people can be themselves and feel a sense of belonging. -Brené Brown

31. The level of collective courage in an organization is the absolute best predictor of that organization’s ability to be successful. -Brené Brown

32. A brave leader is someone who says I see you. I hear you. I don’t have all the answers, but I’m going to keep listening and asking questions. -Brené Brown

33. I define a leader as anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and who has the courage to develop that potential.

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34. Write a new ending for yourself, for the people you’re meant to serve and support, and for your culture. -Brené Brown

35. Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands. -Brené Brown

36. Leaders must either invest a reasonable amount of time attending to fears and feelings or squander an unreasonable amount of time trying to manage ineffective and unproductive behavior. -Brené Brown

37. When receiving feedback, we can identify a value-supporting behavior or a piece of self-talk to help in the moment. Here’s mine: When I’m receiving feedback, and I want to stay aligned with my value of courage, I say to myself, “I’m brave enough to listen. -Brené Brown

38. We desperately need more leaders who are committed to courageous, wholehearted leadership and who are self-aware enough to lead from their hearts, rather than unevolved leaders who lead from hurt and fear. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes On Courage

Brené Brown Quotes On Courage

39. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. -Brené Brown

40. Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness. -Brené Brown

41. Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. -Brené Brown

42. Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am brave and worthy of love and belonging. -Brené Brown

43. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.

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44. Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen. -Brené Brown

45. I’ve found what makes children happy doesn’t always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults. -Brené Brown

46. Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do. -Brené Brown

47. Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them. -Brené Brown

48. I define wholehearted living as engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am brave and worthy of love and belonging. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes About Sharing Your Story

Brené Brown Quotes About Sharing Your Story

49. Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?” If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.

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50. We share with people who have earned the right to hear our story. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes About Joy And Happiness

Brené Brown Quotes About Joy And Happiness

51. The only universal language I know of that wraps up joy and gratitude and love is laughter. -Brené Brown

52. I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments, gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude, inspiration, and faith. -Brené Brown

53. Stay in your own lane. Comparison kills creativity and joy.

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54. Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments – often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we’re too busy chasing down the extraordinary moments. Other times we’re so afraid of the dark we don’t dare let ourselves enjoy the light. A joyful life is not a floodlight of joy. That would eventually become unbearable. I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude and inspiration. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes On Connection

Brené Brown Quotes On Connection

55. Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. -Brené Brown

56. When two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them. -Brené Brown

57. Connection: Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment. Belonging: Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. -Brené Brown

58. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection; the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and unworthy of connection.

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59. Connection is why we’re here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering. -Brené Brown

60. Living a connected life ultimately is about setting boundaries, spending less time and energy hustling and winning over people who don’t matter, and seeing the value of working on cultivating connection with family and close friends. -Brené Brown

61. When we stop caring about what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable. If we dismiss all the criticism, we lose out on important feedback, but if we subject ourselves to the hatefulness, our spirits gets crushed. It’s a tightrope, shame resilience is the balance bar, and the safety net below is the one or two people in our lives who can help us reality-check the criticism and cynicism. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown Quotes On Perfectionism

Brené Brown Quotes On Perfectionism

62. You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging. -Brené Brown

63. Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis. -Brené Brown

64. Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is a defensive move. It’s the belief that if we do things perfectly and look perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.

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65. Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together. -Brené Brown

66. Perfectionism is not the same thing has striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame. It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown: Rising Strong Quotes

Brené Brown Rising Strong Quotes

67. We don’t have to do all of it alone. We were never meant to. -Brené Brown

68. Just because someone isn’t willing or able to love us, it doesn’t mean that we are unlovable. -Brené Brown

69. People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses. -Brené Brown

70. Boundaries—You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no. -Brené Brown

71. Generosity—You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others. Self-trust is often a casualty. -Brené Brown

72. Of all the things trauma takes away from us, the worst is our willingness, or even our ability, to be vulnerable. There’s a reclaiming that has to happen. -Brené Brown

73. Sometimes when we are beating ourselves up, we need to stop and say to that harassing voice inside, “Man, I’m doing the very best I can right now. -Brené Brown

74. Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage. -Brené Brown

75. Creativity is the power to connect the seemingly unconnected.” Connecting the dots of our lives, especially the ones we’d rather erase or skip over, requires equal parts self-love and curiosity: How do all of these experiences come together to make up who I am? -Brené Brown

76. Integrity—You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them. Nonjudgment—I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment. -Brené Brown

77. MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers Than those of us who are willing to fall Because we have learned how to rise With skinned knees and bruised hearts; We choose owning our stories of struggle, Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending. When we deny our stories, they define us. When we run from struggle, we are never free. So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye. We will not be characters in our stories. Not villains, not victims, not even heroes. We are the authors of our lives. We write our own daring endings. We craft love from heartbreak, Compassion from shame, Grace from disappointment, Courage from failure. Showing up is our power. Story is our way home. Truth is our song. We are the brave and brokenhearted. We are rising strong.

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78. Accountability—You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends. -Brené Brown

79. Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertainty. -Brené Brown

80. I don’t trust a theologian who dismisses the beauty of science or a scientist who doesn’t believe in the power of mystery. -Brené Brown

81. How can we expect people to put value on our work when we don’t value ourselves enough to set and hold uncomfortable boundaries? -Brené Brown

82. Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment. -Brené Brown

83. When I see people stand fully in their truth, or when I see someone fall down, get back up, and say, “Damn. That really hurt, but this is important to me and I’m going in again”—my gut reaction is, “What a badass. -Brené Brown

84. Reliability—You do what you say you’ll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities. -Brené Brown

85. Vault—You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential. -Brené Brown

86. Shame is much more likely to be the cause of destructive behavior than the cure. Guilt and empathy are the emotions that lead us to question how our actions affect other people, and both of these are severely diminished by the presence of shame. -Brené Brown

87. There are too many people today who instead of feeling hurt are acting out their hurt; instead of acknowledging pain, they’re inflicting pain on others. Rather than risking feeling disappointed, they’re choosing to live disappointed. Emotional stoicism is not badassery. Blustery posturing is not badassery. Swagger is not badassery. Perfection is about the furthest thing in the world from badassery. -Brené Brown

88. The opposite of recognizing that we’re feeling something is denying our emotions. The opposite of being curious is disengaging. When we deny our stories and disengage from tough emotions, they don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us. Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending—to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how this story ends. -Brené Brown

Brené Brown: Daring Greatly Quotes

Brené Brown Daring Greatly Quotes

89. Numb the dark and you numb the light. -Brené Brown

90. What we know matters but who we are matters more. -Brené Brown

91. The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time. -Brené Brown

92. Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up. -Brené Brown

93. Daring greatly is being brave and afraid every minute of the day at the exact same time. -Brené Brown

94. Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting. -Brené Brown

95. Wholeheartedness. There are many tenets of Wholeheartedness, but at its very core is vulnerability and worthiness; facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that I am enough. -Brené Brown

96. I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred. Perhaps embracing vulnerability and overcoming numbing is ultimately about the care and feeding of our spirits. -Brené Brown

97. Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. I often say that Wholeheartedness is like the North Star: We never really arrive, but we certainly know if we’re headed in the right direction. -Brené Brown

98. Belonging: Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. -Brené Brown

99. To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.

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100. Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. -Brené Brown

101. When we pretend that we can avoid vulnerability we engage in behaviors that are often inconsistent with who we want to be. -Brené Brown

102. Everyone wants to know why customer service has gone to hell in a handbasket. I want to know why customer behavior has gone to hell in a handbasket. -Brené Brown

103. When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose. -Brené Brown

104. In its original Latin form, sacrifice means to make sacred or to make holy. I wholeheartedly believe that when we are fully engaged in parenting, regardless of how imperfect, vulnerable, and messy it is, we are creating something sacred. -Brené Brown

105. I only share when I have no unmet needs that I’m trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get. -Brené Brown

106. Worrying about scarcity is our culture’s version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we’ve been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we’re angry and scared and at each other’s throats. -Brené Brown

107. Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path. -Brené Brown

108. I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let’s think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can’t ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow—that’s vulnerability. -Brené Brown

109. Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection. -Brené Brown

110. Research tells us that we judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If I feel good about my body, I don’t go around making fun of other people’s weight or appearance. We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived shaming deficiency. -Brené Brown