Are You Being Bullied by Regret?

FTI pin Today Mother Teresa

Regret is like a bully on the playground of our minds.

He’s nasty and mean, and he doesn’t fight fair.

He sneaks up behind you, tripping you up with a memory from your unforgotten past.

He kicks you when you’re down, spitting out insults. He calls you names like “worthless” and “stupid” and tells you that “you will never change” and “there is no hope for you.”

I’ve dealt with this issue a lot in my life and I’ve come to realize that the reason regret holds such power over us is that it is often laced with truth.

We surely have made mistakes. We may have taken a wrong turn and allowed our failures to lead us down a dead-end road.

Years pass. And there we stand, in some dreary and dark place we’d rather not be, rehearsing our guilt in slow motion and going nowhere fast.

But there is a way out, a way through, a way to get past the past and move forward into the future.

It’s the way of forgiveness.

We must receive God’s forgiveness. Then we must give ourselves that same gift.

Because when we begin to forgive ourselves, we will stop the momentum of regret. We’ll find the strength to stand up to that bully.

We may walk away with some scuffs and bruises, but we will be okay. We will be free!

This post from Jon Acuff puts a humorous spin on this topic. Maybe it will encourage you as it did me.

Be blessed!

Live to the Hilt

“I’m reminded of missionary and martyr Jim Elliot’s quote ‘Where ever you are, be all there. Live to the hilt every situation you believe to be the will of God.'”

The above quote captured my attention as soon as I read it and has held me captive ever since. I found it in a post from Courtney on her blog Women Living Well. Ironically her post, titled “No Guilt – No Regrets”, has me feeling a bit…well, guilty and regretful. But, in a good way, I guess. I say good because anything that points us toward truth is a good thing, right?

I have always admired those people who seem to be in the moment, embracing all life has to offer and singularly focused on living up to their potential. Like the early explorers, they are courageous souls, fearlessly venturing out of their comfort zones in search of the ultimate treasure: LIFE. A life fulfilled. A life without guilt and regret. Living a fearless, go-for-the-gusto life is something I struggle with. But I am blessed to have a husband who is the embodiment of this kind of life, and he inspires me every day. It is the life we are all called to live. Jesus said, in John 10:10,“I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more ABUNDANTLY.” It is my hope that God will help me do better in this area. I want to live a life pleasing to Him.

And, so, this prayer of Paul for the Colossians has become my prayer as well. “And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.” Colossians 1:9-11

In other words, “Please God, help me live life to the hilt!”