How to Find True Love and Avoid a Train Wreck

I love love.

And, based on the enormous volume of music and movies and books produced on the subject, not to mention the amount of Valentine’s Day candy and cards sold every year, we all do.

But we want the real deal. Not the fake stuff.
Because the fake stuff only leads to pain.

Just ask Manti Teo.

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We want the kind of love I talk about in Love Letters, which, I guess not surprisingly, turns to be one of the all-time most popular posts I’ve written to date.
And how can you know if you’ve found the real deal?

In my case, it took me a while to realize that my husband was “The One”. So I know that it can be difficult to discern matters of the heart. But, I also believe that as we pray and ask God for guidance,  He gives us all the signs and signals we need to keep us headed on the right track.

Here are my thoughts on how to avoid a relationship train wreck.

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What are your thoughts on finding true love?

Have you found it or are you still searching?

Please share in the comments.

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

Remembering the Real World

I’ve been hit and miss with blogging lately due to a wonderful vacation with my hubby. We decided to take a road trip to Colorado, both to escape the cares of life and the lingering summer heat.

Here is one of our first glimpses of mountain bliss…

We found a quiet garden where we let ourselves be still for a while, breathing in the fresh air and our lovely new surroundings –

Our hearts opening up like this flower to receive God’s gift of rest…

Vacations, the right kind, are like stumbling upon the fountain of youth. They are healing and life-giving. We tried to drink it all in, knowing that our few days here might be hard to recall after our return to “the real world”.

But I’m reminded that the real world is not the one filled with the frenetic activity we call living – it is this. Seen clearly in stillness. We hear it in the silent places, where spirit connects with Spirit and the soul runs free.

So we took the first snapshots with our eyes, recorded them on mind and heart film and then used our digital camera as backup.

Because we do not want to forget…

God, please help us to remember.

“He has caused his wonders to be remembered; the LORD is gracious and compassionate.” Psalm 111: 4 NIV

How Real Is Real?

I’m fairly new to High Calling Blogs but when I read about the You Are Real Community Writing Project, I was eager to add my voice to the topic of how real online relationships can be in our lives. Christian Blog Network
In contemplating the subject, my first reaction was to ask the question, “How real is real?”

I’m learning that some folks believe there to be merit only in the everyday, flesh and blood relationships. But, if eyeball-to-eyeball conversations are the only ones that matter, does that mean the emails and phone calls I exchange with the good friends I had to leave when we moved out of state are of no value?

What about my relationship with the God I’ve never seen in the flesh? Is He any less real than my neighbor next door who I see on a regular basis?

Though I have yet to meet any of my fellow bloggers (yet), I feel they are just as real as any other acquaintance of mine. As a matter of fact, it occurs to me that an online friend can often be more authentic because there are no pretenses or peripheral distractions to diminish the exchange of honest communication.

So many times our contact with “real life” people is hurried and guarded and shallow. Not always, but it happens doesn’t it?

I don’t deny that I need to make every effort to cultivate the flesh and blood relationships in my life, but I also want to acknowledge the importance of the invisible ones.

These unseen people – they have real names, real families, real lives.

They tap at their keyboards, taking time to type true words. Words that reflect real thoughts from a real heart to other real, yet invisible, people who share community through computer screens.

I think the challenge for all of us is to try our best to offer our sincere and genuine selves to every relationship we have, whether offline or online.

It starts by taking a good, long look in the mirror and asking ourselves, “How real is real?”