We may be embarrassed to admit it, but there are three, little words we women long to hear. And it may be different than some might think.
From our earliest memories, we are aware that we were born with this desire – like a seed planted deep in the heart and soul of us – to know we are loved and cherished.
And it’s like the unfolding of a flower opening to the sun when it happens – When we feel those things being expressed through this secretly-coveted affirmation.
You Are Beautiful!
But it takes more than hearing. It takes believing. And that can be difficult.
I chuckle now at that time in high school when a classmate told me I could be pretty if I just used more mascara. She whipped a tube out of her purse and began to work on my lackluster lashes. I don’t think she achieved the transformation she envisioned.
Then, there are those glamor magazines, filled with models and Hollywood celebrities, all with perfect skin and straight teeth and well-sculpted bodies. We’ve heard about photography tricks and photoshop, but we can’t forget the images we’ve seen. Especially when we look in the mirror.
We have this snapshot of pretty painted on our brain and our own eyes speak the plain truth that no amount of makeup can cover over.
We are who we are.
But if we don’t know who we are, our hearts can become targets for deception.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
The Seattle Times published a piece on human trafficking in which writer, Nicole Brodeur, reveals that “many of these kids go willingly, lured by attention and the affection they crave.” Even more shocking, the article goes on to quote Lt. Eric Sano of the Seattle Police Department:
“The victims would rather endure the beatings or the rapes for the times he tells her he loves her, when he tells her she’s beautiful and treats her like a princess.”
It’s important for us to understand who we are.
We are daughters of the King! And these are His words to us:
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.
Song of Solomon 4:7
How can a dearly loved Princess of God feel anything but beautiful? But we do.
Because our culture is screaming the opposite.
I was watching a sitcom recently that actually touched on this subject. Two parents were lamenting over the negative messages our society is sending to young women. As we see them discuss their teenaged daughters questionable dating choices, the wife says to the husband in desperation, “They are expected to look and act like porn stars!”
Yes, sadly, the culture is screaming loud.
And not just at teens, but adults as well.
Case in point: The overwhelming sales of a certain book that exploded on the scene this past year. When I heard about some of the content, I must have turned 50 shades of red. That was enough to know it’s something I won’t be putting on my reading list.
Even the author admits that she’s not a great writer and that she is “stunned” by it’s popularity. But, really, it’s not surprising at all. Her book is categorized as a “romance” and statistics show that romance novels are a billion (not a million, a BILLION) dollar industry, far surpassing all other genres.
And I get how a woman might turn to fantasy to try and escape from the weight of her own reality. How she might like to forget her own story and lose herself in one that offers some version of the love she lacks. But when the last chapter is read, she’ll still be looking for something to fill the pages of her heart.
Because that’s the way the enemy works. That slithering snake has a counterfeit version of every good thing God offers us. And, just like a predator, he lures us with the lie that he can supply what we need. But he can’t.
Christian women beware!
The King of Heaven has called you out of darkness. He has crowned you with light. He wants you to know that His love for you is real. Not a cheap imitation. So, don’t eat the forbidden fruit. You are precious and beautiful treasure to Him. Believe that.
You were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord.
Live as children of light.
Look in the mirror and speak these truths out loud until all those other voices begin to fade.
Teach them to your children.
Remind every young girl you meet.
You are a child of God. Romans 8:16
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14
You are loved with an everlasting love. Jeremiah 31:3
Let’s face it. We are who we are.
And that’s a good thing!
Do you think the media makes it harder for women today to deal with issues of self-worth? How has God helped you to accept the fact that who you are is enough?